For many people in Clark County, divorce means moving out of the marital home, arranging a child custody plan and determining spousal support payments. However, before you can do any of those things, there is one important thing you must do first: Tell your spouse that you want to get divorced.
Like everything else in the divorce process, you can help ensure you have a good conversation by being intentional about the timing of your conversation, the things you say and the things you do before you have that conversation.
One of the first things you should do is gather as much information as possible. For many people, talking with an experienced family law attorney can prepare you for what will happen after your conversation. Think about what you expect to happen once you and your spouse start working toward a divorce. Are you planning on moving out, or are you expecting your spouse to do that? What about your finances?
Next, you should think about what you actually want to say when you announce that you'd like to end your marriage. It may be beneficial to write a script. As you're thinking about what to say, think about honest but positive things you can say. Focusing on negative or vindictive things will set the wrong tone for the process.
Finally, when you are ready to actually have your big conversation, make sure you are intentional about the timing. You don't want the news to fall out while you're walking out the door, when you're out with friends or when you've been drinking. Be intentional about the timing, and try not to have your conversation in an evening when you have other plans or before either of you have something big at work.
The divorce process can be challenging and emotional, but you can help get things started on the right foot.
Source: Huffington Post, "You've Decided To Leave Your Spouse -- Now What?" Emily V. Gordon, May 31, 2012